The ritualistic practice of sanitization & safe play.
My job as a dominatrix is to create a safe space for you that is discreet, free of judgment & allows the ability to openly communicate your kinks. Your boundaries will always be respected & aftercare is always provided. Peace of mind & knowing that you are safe & your health is considered at every turn will help to optimize the experience with your Domme. Below you will learn the many steps I take to ensure you are well taken care of:
THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT factor in scene play. No consent = no play. On the rare occasion a regular with consistent rapport may want to push their limits with consent, I may allow this because of our long-term bonding & familiarity with each other. However, 99.9% of the time expect me to be strict with consent! Anyone who says consent isn't sexy clearly doesn't understand how hot it can be to tell someone exactly what you want to do to them & how. Sexy is woven into the details of a negotiated scene. Also, I think & hope it is abundantly clear to all why boundaries & consent would be important anytime engaging with another human being but even more so in a bdsm scenario. I cannot stress the importance of subs educating themselves from a variety of sources on kinks. You cannot accurately gauge risk vs reward when consenting to activities if you are not aware of the risks. Be sure to fully understand what you are consenting to before you consent & don't be afraid to ask questions if you need to.
There are two types of safe words. 1) vocal safe words 2) non vocal safe words (for when you're incapacitated) A vocal safe word can be negotiated, or a commonly used system is the stop light system (green-ok, yellow-uncomfortable, red-stop). An example of a non-vocal safe word would be the numbers system (1 finger held up- ok, 2 fingers held up- uncomfortable, 3 fingers held up-stop). There are many other ways to use non-vocal safe words depending on just how incapacitated you are. This should ALWAYS be a conversation ahead of a scene.
I take health seriously. Sanitization protocols are at the forefront to a number of preventative measures that I execute consistently beforehand, during & after a scene to ensure that we are both kept safe & in good health. Proper sanitization includes more than just cleaning & sanitizing our play environment, but also cleaning & sanitizing any toys as well as cleaning during certain scenes that require extra precaution (example: med fet). A lot of products I use are one time use packaged items (example: bzk wipes, alcohol wipes, nitrile gloves, sterile gauze, medical implements etc). Products I use for the space & for toys: - CAVICIDE (An intermediate level surface disinfectant, which is effective against TB, HBV, HCV, Viruses (hydrophilic & lipophilic), bacteria (including MRSA & VRE) & fungi. - ANTI-BACTERIAL SOAP & BZK TOY CLEANER (Used to soak & clean toys with) - DETTOL (Antiseptic solution)
I know what I know & I know what I don't know. That being said, you will never see me offer anything that I do not have complete confidence in, experience in & education in. I do not believe that every kink is meant to be self-taught. Often times you will see me post on my Twitter or website about attending workshops. I believe in learning from others who have more years of experience & are better equipped to teach me all there is to know. I love what I do & I am very serious about my craft. I want me subs to know that they are in safe hands.